The Comparison Trap


Here's the scenario:

Every night it's the same thing. We sit on the couch or lay in bed, pick up our phones and start scrolling. There are so many social media platforms out there, so you choose your favorite for now. You see someone from highschool is now a successful doctor. Someone else posted pictures from their 20th exotic location vacation. You look next to you and there's your significant other, in sweats, looking at their phone. You glance around the room that you're in and you see the mess of today's actions or rather inactions. You start to think "Well why haven't I gone on a fancy vacation? Why aren't I someone successful?" Maybe you start to tear up. Maybe you just lay in bed thinking about all of your regrets. Maybe you think about all of the times that you "chose the wrong path."


STOP COMPARING! This is a trap that we all fall into at one point or another. All of the 'why's' and the 'what-if's' won't help you as long as you keep focusing on the past.


We are all different. Every moment and every person in our lives are different variables compared to everyone else. NO TWO PEOPLE HAVE THE SAME VARIABLES!

No two flowers look exactly the same. No two animals look exactly the same. So why are we comparing ourselves to other people?


How do we break this cycle? PLAY! When we compare ourselves to other people, we stop playing and start strategizing. We plan how we can get to be that person. Instead, we need to play more. Bring back our inner child that didn't care about what others thought, as long as we all had fun. Use that play to build our emotional strength.


Do you craft as a form of your play? Use that crafting to build a side hustle. Use that crafting to start a non-profit for disaster victims or the homeless.

Is your play coloring or dancing or video games? Use that as your strength to build something for yourself. Something that you can be proud of.


Remember that not everything you see on social media is perfect. Not everyone is always happy or always at peace. People tend to only show 'the perfect.' If you actually take a look at some of the big influencers, they are the ones that show their 'everyday side.' They show the side that most people hide from social media.


We are the ones that write the story of our lives. No one else can do it for us. Stop comparing yourself to other people and walk your own path. Hop, skip, and jump down your own playful path. Witness and accept the abundance that comes with it.


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