"People are not disturbed by things; they are disturbed by their view of things." -Michael Cornwall
When reading the book Go Suck a Lemon: Strategies for Improving Your Emotional Intelligence by Michael Cornwall the above mentioned quote really struck a cord with me. Thinking back on all of the times that I have judged others or situations, it really was just my own view that sparked an emotion.
There is this lack of emotional intelligence in our society today. Take the news for example, when was the last time you saw a news story that didn't have a little bit of opinion embedded in there? They all have an agenda to sell you the news and make it enticing so that you'd come back for more. Those newscasters are imposing their own interpretations of the actual events on to you and trying to get you to feel the same way that they do. For the most part, it works.
We as a society really need to take a step back and look around us. People cannot MAKE us feel anything. When we are "made" to feel something, we are actually reacting to the situation/person. Did you actually want to act that way? Did you want to have the emotion? Taking a split second to breathe and focus on how you WANT to feel makes all of the difference.
Being aware of your emotions and how you react to things is a big step. It will take time. It will take time to actually change the way you think therefore changing the way you feel.
"To begin to improve our emotional intelligence, we will have to own our emotions, know that they come from us and our own thinking, rather than placing their origin on others." -Michael Cornwall